Being in love is a wonderful experience, but love doesn’t necessarily equate to an orgasmic sexual experience. In today’s society, so much emphasis is placed on a woman making her man gasp with thrill, while neglecting a woman’s needs.
Sexy lingerie, pornographic films, and slinky magazines. Whatever it takes to seduce a man and push him past the point of no return. Yet where does female pleasure come into play? The concept of pleasing a woman is lost some in translation.
So I ask you women, when you have sex, do you expect to orgasm? Do you orgasm more often than not? If the answer is no, why is that? Female libido is something that has a tendency to be overlooked in the area of medicine. We’re told that if we cant orgasm, it has to be our fault in some form.
Here’s the thing… it takes two to tangle. On one level, our partner should be considered about our sexual satisfaction. Their own pleasure should be the all-in-all of a sexual encounter. This is where they take responsibility for the sexual well-being of the relationship.
On the other hand, we as women also have to take responsibility. If our man (or woman) is not providing the sexual experience we want, keeping our mouths shut isn’t going to help the situation. So I say, be truthful with your companion and let him/her know whats working for you and what’s not. Don’t assume your partner knows the right moves to get you off, particularly if your partner is of the opposite sex.
Consider this scenario. Your male partner may be eager to please, but find himself racing towards a climax. To hold back, he may pause for a moment in the hope of slowing himself. He may have no problem picking up where he left off and be right back on track for an orgasm.
Some girls will appreciate the variability in his technique, but regularly ladies have to work themselves back up into the highly awakened mental state after such a pause. Unless a person has great staying power, by the point girls are highly awakened again, the guy is finished. Bummer experience.
Talking to your partner may not prevent him from taking the express train toward an orgasm. However, it may open a dialog for working on methods which puts everyone on the same track. For instance, incorporating foreplay which puts you, as a woman, closer to an orgasm before he penetrates.
The bottom line is this. Don’t assume your partner knows how to bring you to climax… communicate. Know your body and teach your partner about your body.